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Such a perfect couple…

Such a perfect couple, people always say…
They don’t know that for so many years we have said the same sentences.
“Don’t talk to me that way.”
“I talk to you that way because you made me so mad.”
“Well, that doesn’t give you the right to talk to me that way.”
“Yeah, I know.”
I believe we have said just that paragraph over five thousand times.
Exactly like that, except now and then a f’n works its way through.
So, now it’s decision time.
Because I keep repeating the same sentences too.
How do I change the script?
Our responses are so automatic.
Can you actually change within a destructive relationship or do you have to leave it?
I learned a long time ago, that you alone are responsible for what you accept from other people. I have accepted verbal abuse.
I am also responsible for how I respond to other people. I’ve become angry enough to start screaming right back at you. I don’t want to be that woman.
I don’t know how to be near you without being angry anymore and that scares me.
Can I change? Can you change?
I guess we would have if we could have.
Such a perfect couple people always say…

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10 thoughts on “Such a perfect couple…

  1. I do believe that couples can change their dynamics… but only if they BOTH want to, and only with outside help i.e counselling/intimacy workshops/good therapist. Plus a commitment to taking time to make the changes- nothing truly profound will happen overnight. And sometimes, without doubt, the healthiest option is to walk away… and then do the work on yourself to not repeat the patterns with the next person. Good luck! G

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  2. “Perfect couple” Yes, but only on the surface, not all the way through, only perfect for the things that can’t be seen.

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